is honesty the best policy?

Not so much.

I like honesty. I want people to be honest with me. But in return I want to be honest with whoever is being honest with me.
People say they want honesty, but I don't think they really do. They think it is noble. But honesty can hurt, if you choose to let it.
It's a hard call, whether to be honest with someone or not. I know it should be done with grace. But not everyone thinks like I do.

You know the golden rule, DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU".
I try to live that way. I want others to treat me as I would treat them. But the problem with the golden rule is that it is relative. The way I would treat someone and have them treat me is not the same as how someone else would treat me and want to be treated.

I want honesty and want to be honest with others.
Others want honesty as long as it doesn't hurt them.